Dear Little Ladies:
I’m sorry that the world we brought you into is falling down around you. I had hoped that yours would be a world where love was louder than hate, where kindness was victorious and happiness was perpetual. I wanted to you to grow up in a world that was colorblind. And ignorance eradicated. Where women could be President without ridicule from other women. Or men. Where the ties of partisanship were not nearly as strong as the ties of humanity. And what is right. Where people spent a whole lot of energy building you up instead of all of their time tearing you down.
I had hoped you would grow up in a world where people could be who they are without fear of hatred or prejudice. That the spectacle of sensation would vanish and you would be left to rely on intellect and instinct and interest. I had hoped you would be interesting. I had hoped that we would bring you into a world of interesting people, ideas, events.
I didn’t realize, little ladies, that the world that you would grow up in would be a kingdom where mean girls rule and fame whores postulate and promote an untouchable image. An untouchable face. A world where popular culture laments their wish to “be like the cool kids”. Where girls are shamed for their clothing, are ashamed of their bodies and dare society to define decency in an effort to parade around half naked in front of you for the cause. Because that is what makes our foremothers proud.
I had hoped that by the time you went to school black and white would coexist. A beautiful melding of cultures and ideas. I had hoped that we could live in the gray. That we could love in the gray. That the world could accept love in any form. Not just the antiquated standard accepted by society. I had hoped that people would stop hiding behind their heritage and bibles and morals and guns. That they would listen more, talk less. That hearts would be opened, mouths shut. That violence for the sake of violence would be rare.
I had hoped that you would be safe.
This is not the America that I love. It is not the world I had hoped you would explore. It seems to me that there is nothing free about stealing and burning and beating and protesting. There is nothing brave about the deconstruction of of a country that was built on the promise of democracy and a dream.
I had hoped that the lessons we teach from our pulpits of education would resonate. That voices would prove mightier than fists. That justice would prevail. I had hoped that these events would be your history, not my legacy.
But the TV blasts images of violence and hatred and ugliness that I never have understood. I never will accept. And I fear that all my intentions for the change I sought to be in this world, change for you, is for naught. For you do not grow up in a world where little kids can grow up and be who and what they are. Or who they want. Without ridicule. Or pain. Or spectacle. Or criticism. You grow up in a world that condenses your worth into one hundred and forty characters. And a hashtag. Selfie is the new self worth. And to be noticed is the same as to be followed and liked.
I had hoped that things would be different. That being yourself would be enough. But the world is much more complicated than I imagined. And I can’t protect you from the predators of peers out there hell bent on eating you alive. Brainwashing you with thoughts and words and actions that are unkind. Unjust. Unpatriotic. I can’t shelter you from the storm of self hate that awaits you behind our doors and lurks in the halls of your elementary school. I can’t stop the ignorance that is tolerated around us.
I had hoped that our love was enough to raise you to be kind. Would be enough to teach you to be smart. Could show you your importance.
There is so much beauty to see in this world and I hope – and pray – that you are able to see the world for the beautiful creation that it is and not be blinded by the discoloration of those hell bent on standing in the way of the light.
I hope that you look past the present and desire to make the world better.
Because that is what our children are – right? A desire to make the world better. A reason to be better. You make me want to be better, little ladies. To want better. To demand better.
Because you deserve better.
You are my hope. My hope that tomorrow brings laughter instead of tears. Love instead of hate. Peace instead of violence.
You are my hope that the world, filled with such beauty and grace and promise, will somehow, some day, be what we all dreamed and hoped it would be.